Too many people moan and stress about things that aren't important and won't matter a year from now. Even if what you do goes wrong or not the way you planned, it's not the end of the world and life still goes on regardless. The bullying will cease one day. You will move away from it at some point or hopefully they'll come to their senses and stop. Until it does however, it is important that you find something to look forward to.
Once I got through my depression, (I never got professionally diagnosed so was never on anti depressants or anything) I realised that the world wasn't such a bad place once I could see through what was in front of me. At first I'd find big things to look forward to like people's birthdays, or going shopping in London or seeing relatives. Then I'd see beauty in smaller things such as a butterfly or the sun or a new dress. After that, I realised, I was incredibly lucky, to have friends that had stuck by me when nobody else had, who tried to understand me and what I was going through. My family, especially my parents even though they probably never knew the true extent of what was going on (due to me) are just amazing and have supported me through everything. I had things even in those darkest days to look forward to such as dance class or going home and not being judged. I didn't need to be well liked in both places, to have just one person there would have been enough although I was lucky enough to have more than that to get me through. If there's one place you can go to forget about it all or think about it all and that gives you solace, then you're fortunate to have that. If there's a person you can go and tell everything to without being judged, then you are incredibly lucky too.
The real secret to happiness is in how you see the world. You will find it so much easier to get through all the bullying or hurt that occurs if you just think about things in a more positive light and get someone to tell you good things about yourself. It is often a gradual acceptance of the fact that not everything in the world is bad and your life is fine as it is. If you look at things in a positive way, life is a lot easier to get through. It is also wise to remember that everybody has troubles in life and very few people wear them on their sleeve because it hurts too much and it is too painful to get through life that way, accepting them is enough. Therefore neither should you, nor should you let people's unworthy actions and words put you in a place that can make you feel inadequate or worthless.
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