Banter- to abuse or amuse- an example

Recently I had an argument with somebody significant in my life. It was over a text I sent them thinking it was funny and a joke (the punctuation was there!)however by sending it, I inadvertently ruined their night as well as my own. I did not realise that thy felt this way so carried on as usual.

Then something happened while I was out that really upset me. All I wanted to do was talk to this person however they were on a weekend away with their friends. I didn't want to talk to them for long. However, even when I told them it was important, still annoyed and aware of my intoxicated state, they refused to pick up their phone agitating me even more- queue a stream of unpleasant texts from both ends which I now regret.

My point however is a lot of people say they would anything for a friend but how far would you go? I often pick up calls from friends while they are drunk at 3am just to check that they are safe. However he pointed out that he would not ask me to pick up the phone if the situation was reversed. 

I always thought and have been told that boyfriends/girlfriends/ friends even after a severe argument would pick up the phone at any hour if they could to speak to the other if they were told it was serious. My friends have told me that this is correct and when someone you love is in need, whatever the situation, if you can , you would pick up the phone. They say he's being stubborn and just generating an argument but I can see his point, I just don't agree or understand but maybe it's because I am too blinded by other elements of the situation. I probably didn't help myself by not telling him the whole story however I didn't want to ruin his weekend further. 

My friend and her boyfriend argue all the time and she rarely has a leg to stand on but they manage to kiss and make up. That's the thing about relationships though, they are as unique as we are and what works for some may not work for others. 

I don't know who's right in this situation or even if there is someone who's right. Maybe it is just two different points of view both with valid arguments.

In the end, the argument should be a lot smaller in perspective to the relationship and it should be able to overcome the argument as a result. It definitely is in my eyes. 

I can't help but wonder however if someone wanted you to call, saying it was important and you were busy, how busy would you be to not consider picking up the phone if you had access to it? Would they be right to feel key down or is it more than that?

There are other people I could have called in the situation I suppose and explained it too and maybe I should have called someone less busy, however when somebody means so much, they are the one you instinctively go running to.