Find those moments

In the past few years, I have had some incredible moments, moments where I think yes, this is why I'm alive, this is incredible, I'm living and it's a good life. 

When you feel like giving up, vow to find those moments. It might take a few years but you will get there. It may be something as small as laughing as hard a possible at something silly a friend says, seeing a band live or something bigger, a whole year, fresher's week. Something you feel so incredibly grateful for and get a sense of feeling overjoyed. These moments make everything seem worth it, they make it feel like the bullying hasn't affected me and maybe that's why I find such joy in them. It's hard to get out of bed sometimes and go to work or school especially knowing that it won't be easy and there will be mean people there however seek these moments and use them as your motivation to get up each day and live your life. You never know where they will happen. It might just be a feeling that you belong After years of being forced to feel that you don't fit in somewhere. It may only be a second of realisation or a reflection after the moment has passed. These times are important, they remind you how beautiful life can be and why you need to go and live it. That doesn't mean changing everything or even making a drastic change, just do something you haven't before and take a few more chances. The moment may be something completely normal for everyone else but to you everything will feel good and you will feel like nothing can ever go wrong. Get up and go to work or school each day and live your life normally as it comes, you will still find these moments. They are important especially if you have been feeling low in the past. 

A confession...

Unfortunately, lately I have come to hear of but not experience bullying in my workplace. This is hard for me to take not only because I am so close to those feeling victimized but because I can't do much about it except be there for the people involved. I feel bad that I can't help explicitly or get directly involved but I am doing what I can to be there for those feeling victimized. Being there for someone while they are being bullied is important and never underestimate the power of being a friend in a time of need. The key feeling of those who are bullied is often loneliness so letting someone know that you are there for them if you cannot do anything to help the situation directly is important. Also, do not let them feel that you are treating them any differently to anyone else because this will make them feel even more alienated and doubt how genuine your concerns are. If everyone is gossiping about them, their trust in others will be minimal. Never break that trust, if they tell you something in confidence, honour it unless they are dangerous, otherwise they will retreat even more until they are no longer noticeable.