Does the bullying have a long term psychological effect?

I got a little bit upset the other day at work after I couldn't do what a customer wanted me to and they were rather harsh towards me. She was a little patronizing. Luckily my manager came to handle the situation and after, he took me aside, I ended up crying and thought he would have a go at me but instead, he told me he understood and told me to calm down. I can't help wonder that if my over emotional reaction to that customer is something
To do with my past experiences because sometimes I do get upset about things that I know I shouldn't but they hurts deeply and I don't know why. The bullying toughened me up and god knows- I needed it but now I have days where I feel invincible and nothing anyone else can say will get me down and others where the smallest thing will. Maybe I just bruise easily- I'm not sure. The colleague who I work with on Saturdays was really good about and he was telling me ii shouldn't get down about stuff a customer says which I know but I couldn't help it. He asked me why it had upset me do much and I couldn't answer because I didn't know, but reflecting on it later, I have come to the conclusion that this is in fact the reason for it. The bullies used to go on at me in the same aggressive way that customer did and maybe there was a trigger there. STOP AND STAND UP for yourself to the bullies.

Banter: to amuse or Abuse?

Now I do quite like a bit of good ole banter :) but sometimes I think it goes A bit far with the line between funny and just plain abuse / bullying getting very blurred ... yes most of the time it's funny and amusing and shows a fondness for the person but sometimes it gets misread and rather than laughing with you... People laugh at you but the person may not realise this and this isn't right. STOP AND STAND UP amusing not abusing . Don't laugh if the person in the middle isn't in on the joke as well. STOP BULLYING, STOP AND STAND UP!

Don't judge, get to know

We all have preconceptions about people when only having known them a few seconds based on their appearance, the way they speak or their attitude. This is something we can't help as humans but it doesn't mean our opinion of that person should stay that way. We should get to know before we judge, and not judge on superficial things or things that ca happened in the past. With bullies, you usually have to only say or do one thing an they will pick up on it and use that and any other thing they can against you. Recently I have had the experience of having gotten a totally wrong preconception of someone on both ends and I feel really bad afterwards... There's no guarantee what a person will be like based on their looks or what others say about them. So I encourage you to stop following the crowd's opinions about someone and make your own judgements about them. STOP AND STAND UP for getting to know people before judging them... What right do you have to do otherwise anyway? How would you feel if somebody took a dislike to you based on shallow preconceptions?

Originality

Jessie j has it... Lady gaga definitely has it and Bruno mars seems to have his own individual swag. So why is it that bullying seems to occur when people are being original and are not following the crowd. If your polo shirt is primark instead of hollister or your shoes are something other than vans or k Swiss, why does that matter? It matters because being different as many of us find out gives bullies a feature to pick on. The way we look, talk, smell, laugh, the things we like .. Hobbies, music, television shows. If you like something that's perceived by one person as anything other than cool, they can turn it against you and in to something negative when really its positive. Trying something different is always beneficial, it give us experience, being different is essential for everyone because of we aren't unique then really we are just robot like clones. My motto at the moment is go for it, what have you got to lose, this has been mainly useful for when it comes to men. I do t like playing games when I don't know where I stand and I don't want to get messed around and I think that's something that needs to be applied to every aspect of life. It will challenge you in the right way, help you make a difference to someone, possibly even the world. Don't let bullies ruin your uniqueness which is incredible. Stop and stand up for originality and inspire others to do so too.